This Saturday I’m headed back to the great state of Ohio to move into my first apartment with my cute and awesome roomies, pictured above. I’m really excited to get back to Athens, my home away from home, and my packing is coming along slowly but surely. While I’m looking forward to my junior year at Ohio University, I would be lying if I said the upcoming move wasn’t giving me some considerable feelings of anxiety.
Most of these feelings are centered around the fact that when I’m at school, I’m six hours away from my family. It was really hard adjusting to the distance last year and a lot of my anxiety is coming from the knowledge that I’ll have to go through that experience again. I’m hoping that it won’t be as hard this year for a couple of reasons: I know what to expect, how to combat the homesickness, and my apartment will feel more like home then a dorm room did.
Even though I know these things, anxiety is an unreasonable little monster and doesn’t want to leave me alone. Thankfully (or maybe not, depending on how you look at it) anxiety is an old friend of mine and I’ve developed a few ways to deal with it over the years.
Talk to someone
For me, this someone is and will always be my mom. She is the perfect listener and is calm and measured where my anxiety is unreasonable and frantic. Your someone doesn’t have to be your mom or anyone in your family, but if you can find someone you’re comfortable talking to it can really help to get those feelings off of your chest. Talking might not fix any of the problems you’re worried about, but it can rationalize them and tell your anxiety to take a hike for a while.
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Make a list
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I love making lists. Grocery lists, packing lists, to-do lists; they are my jam! So now, when my anxiety keeps piling on more and more things to worry about I write them down. I write down the problem or thing that is bothering me and then if I can figure out a solution or reasonable answer to it, I write that down too. This way I get those anxious thoughts out of my brain and onto a piece of paper where they are more manageable to deal with. However, if lists just make you more anxious, definitely skip this one.
Listen to some music
I’ve been having trouble falling asleep lately and one of the tips the handy-dandy internet gave me, was to listen to some soothing music before going to bed. It’s been helping a little bit, but you can also use this tip for those moments when you just want to shut off your brain. That could mean loud rock tunes, soft piano music or acoustic covers, whatever helps you in the moment. Spotify is one of the best places to find and make your own playlists for whatever mood you are in.
Checkout this great playlist, “Dude. Chill Out.” from my friend Mary Puzder the next time you have an anxious moment and need to calm down:
When it comes to mental health everyone is different in the way they experience their ‘bad moments’ and how they cope with them. Anxiety has been my biggest enemy lately and these are the best ways that I have found to battle it. I hope one or more of them might work for you, but if you have any tried and true methods that you already use, stick to those. I’m always open for new suggestions too so if you feel up for sharing, leave a comment below!
Thanks for reading the latest installment of The State of Kate, I’ll see ya next week with a blog about the do’s and don’ts of move-in day.